Tips To Handle Toddler Temper Tantrums
September 16th, 2017
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We all love to have a good moan every now and again when things get on top of us and we feel stressed. Shouting and screaming is sometimes the safest and best option to take out of that angry place. It’s no different with toddlers and little ones, they often get annoyed at things like we do. Fair enough, it’s not at taxes or endless bills that feel like they never end but their stress is important to control if you want a child that is good most of the time.
Temper tantrums come very sparsely and few to me these days, but throughout the years I have learnt to deal with even the worst of them. Whether you’re in the middle of Primark and your little 3-year-old starts throwing herself on the floor because she wants the pink sparkly shoes but they don’t have any in her size, or even if you’re at home and she’s decided it’s the best day to start screaming about having to eat the peas on her dinner plate (we’ve all been there, right?) Nowhere is a good place for a temper tantrum but they do happen and sometimes it’s in the most inappropriate of times.
I’m sorry to break it to you but if you came here for a solution so you never have to deal with them again then I can’t give you one. All’s I can say is that through having to deal with multiple toddlers at the height of their temper times I’ve learnt some ways you can handle temper tantrums. I can’t guarantee they’ll work every time but they’re successful with all my friends and family. The most important thing to remember this, if you think things are bad now at 2 or 3 years-old, you’ve got the whole of the teenage years yet to come. Oh, good luck with those by the way! They’re even better.
Temper tantrums come very sparsely and few to me these days, but throughout the years I have learnt to deal with even the worst of them. Whether you’re in the middle of Primark and your little 3-year-old starts throwing herself on the floor because she wants the pink sparkly shoes but they don’t have any in her size, or even if you’re at home and she’s decided it’s the best day to start screaming about having to eat the peas on her dinner plate (we’ve all been there, right?) Nowhere is a good place for a temper tantrum but they do happen and sometimes it’s in the most inappropriate of times.
I’m sorry to break it to you but if you came here for a solution so you never have to deal with them again then I can’t give you one. All’s I can say is that through having to deal with multiple toddlers at the height of their temper times I’ve learnt some ways you can handle temper tantrums. I can’t guarantee they’ll work every time but they’re successful with all my friends and family. The most important thing to remember this, if you think things are bad now at 2 or 3 years-old, you’ve got the whole of the teenage years yet to come. Oh, good luck with those by the way! They’re even better.
Don’t lose your cool
You’re an adult, it’s hard to keep your cool when your child has decided to take a temper tantrum in Asda but you can stay calm and deal with the situation. Ask them what the matter is and if it’s fixable then fix it, if the tantrum carries on then you need to get them out of the situation to somewhere you can deal with it that isn’t in the middle of the meat aisle.
Use time-outs sparsely
The number of parents I hear about using time-out all the time these days is ridiculous. It’s being used as a punishment all the time but it was invented to be used as a cooling down method. The reason you should use them is when your child is worked up and they need some time to think about what they’ve done, don’t go overboard. If you start using time-out every time they’re naughty they’ll think they can just do naughty things and sit in time-out for a while then everything is sorted, that’s not the case.
Watch for signs of stress
As much as it might seem stupid, your child can become stressed during this time in their life. There are so many things they can't-do, or they try and can’t succeed in which can be hard to deal with. Before things get out of hand and turn into a full-blown temper tantrum, look for the signs your child is getting stressed. It will save a lot of shouting and energy in the longer term.
Let them know you love them
Growing up is so hard, a hug off mum can really change their mood and it’s always nice to have a hug from a little one anyway.
Laugh it off afterwards
A lot of the time they’ll see how silly their temper tantrum was and when that happens you’ll both be able to have a laugh about it. Don’t laugh at them whilst it’s happening though, that’s definitely not a good idea. After all, laughter is the best medicine for everyone. A tantrum will less likely occur again if they see how silly they were the first time, therefore, meaning they won’t do it again. I’m not promising anything though, you’re sure to have your fair share of tantrums before they stop.
Are you any good with dealing with tantrums? Do you have a secret that you’d love to share with us? Tell us all your tips and tricks in the comments.