Keeping The Passion Alive After Kids

It is so easy to get lost in the day to day life of parenting. It is exhausting. It is rewarding. It is fulfilling. Some days, it is hard enough to remember to shower or eat, let alone worry yourself with taking care of your partner, too. I mean, you're already caring for your kids, can't this other adult residing in your home take care of him or herself? Well, sure. But, look back to life before kids. Was it different? Was there more passion? Did you go out on dates more often? Did you snuggle? Did you feel closer? I am going to venture to guess that, for most people, the answer is "yes!" to all of the above.

It is so easier said than done, but the saying is true that your children are only going to be little for a little while, then they will grow up and move out. Meanwhile, your spouse will (hopefully) be around forever. So, be sure to take care of them, also. Remember back to how much in love you felt on your wedding day. Remember your vows. Remember to care.

Lucky for you, this article spells out some different ways you can either keep passion alive or re-ignite that flame between you two.

This is so much easier said than done, but so very important. Make sure to set aside time for just you and your spouse. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant, just time with you and your spouse without distractions.

No money? No problem. Date night doesn't need to cost money. Some ideas are:

▪️Go for a walk. Just simply get out of the house and spend a few minutes with each other.

▪️Watch a movie at home. Once the kids are in bed, snuggle up and put on a movie, or watch a television series on Netflix.

Life with kids can get busy, especially if both parents work outside of the home. Throughout the day, be sure to send text messages or emails to remind your spouse that you are thinking of them. Let them know how you are feeling and ask how they are feeling. Ask how their day went. Doing so will help to keep intimacy in your relationship and open the door for more physical passion when you two do see each other.

I know, that sounds about romantic as a rock, but sometimes the only way we will think about something is to make a point to schedule time for it. So, schedule time for your spouse. Agree to a date and time each week that you both are willing to entertain the idea of having some adult time together.

Intimacy is a very important part of a relationship and soon you will not need to schedule anything. This will bring back the passion into your relationship and you will find yourself longing for your spouse when he or she is not around.

Bottom line is, life with children is rewarding, busy and challenging. It is so much better to have a partner to share that responsibility and joy with. Therefore, it is important that during these rougher years you be sure to let them know that you'd like them to stick around. Then, when they are grown and moving out on you, your passion with your partner will remain. You two will be ready to take life by the horns and live it together.